Dear women,
Why do you strive to be unique however label men as the same. You want to run away from the clichés but talk as one. How can thousands of men be all the same? Is there a secret fabric that produces men as robots? Avoid labels and trapping yourself in a cliché mindset. There are all types of people both men and women. Have you ever thought that maybe men seam the same because you like a type? Or have you ever thought that maybe the problem is not them? The problem has both sides and here is a list of things the majority of women need to start changing if they want to see change.
Think before you react
You may not be able to change the situation but sometimes some women have the gift to make it worse by reacting. Imagine what would happen after you say everything that passes through your hot mind. Imagine how things will just get worse. Stop reacting and start talking. Instead of being ready with your boxer gloves think if it is worth it or if you are really right.
Men are not mind readers
You have to realize that only because you are mad that doesn’t mean you can communicate telepathically or he will have an epiphany. Explain what invades your mind woman. Put yourself in the other person’s position. It is very annoying when you try to piece what you did wrong without making the volcano abrupt more. Say exactly what you mean.
If you are not fine then don´t say you are fine
If you are not ok then don´t say you are. It is very difficult to decode. A real woman has the courage to say what she feels.
Say a sincere sorry
It can be detected from miles when you are saying sorry just because and not from the heart. There is no soul on your apology. Make a real apology, don’t use a sarcastic tone, don’t look at another thing and don’t make it quick.
Don’t make a mental scoreboard of his mistakes
If you forgave him then forget it. We are not made by our mistakes however people keep score of them as if it is what defines us. If you don’t think you can forgive then work on that but don’t use it as a weapon for the next argument. One mistake shouldn’t represent a thousand, it should be judged alone.
Turn off your mouth for a while and turn on your ears
We all have a tendency to talk a lot especially about ourselves without realizing how much we alienate the other person. Stop a moment and listen. Listening is very important. It brings closeness to the other person although if you constantly talk it may seam that he is just a guest in your reality show. Don’t be the person that wants to be the world, listen to the world, especially to the person you love.
Show appreciation
Men won´t admit this but every human being likes to hear a thank you. We make an effort every day, it is so tiring to do the effort with the feeling you are not appreciated. Thank the person for everything they do, even when they say it was nothing. It feels incredible to feel seen, that you are not just a ghost serving the needs of that person. He won´t admit how much it means to him maybe he won´t even understand it but it does.
Take interest on the things he likes
When I was young and a boy I knew had a birthday party I would always give him a football. If I listened and tried to understand their real interests I wouldn’t give them the most typical gift ever. I know it´s hard sometimes to listen about boring topics but it really makes a difference. It feels really good to be able to talk about what you like even if the other person seams clueless.
Don’t flirt with other men
Don’t flirt with others even if you do it in the most innocent way or simply to boost your confidence. More than jealousy it will be disrespect. To see you texting other men, talking in an obvious flirty way and going on obvious friendzoned dates is harsh. It is pure evil to make your man go crazy, feeling he lost you. Don’t be the woman that needs attention so seeks it in the compliments of men who want her.
Respect him as a person and his choices
Things won´t always be exactly as you want, you both may have different opinions as well as beliefs though that doesn´t mean you need to tell him he is wrong. You shouldn´t want to change someone´s way of thinking. Wouldn’t that just make your partner weak? Easy to mould, lacking personality. Just expect that life is chaos, even though you have the power to control some things don´t make your boyfriends mind one of them.
Give him space
Don´t be his shadow. Trust him enough to be free besides don’t be the person who asks where he is from 5 to 5 minutes. Relationships don´t only grow when you are together but sometimes space gives you time to think and to miss. Plus the constant need to know where he is ends up to be just purely irritating
Don´t become the creepy stalker jealous girlfriend
Don’t be the woman that every day checks any likes or comments in his social media and plans a ninja way to check his phone. Please don’t become the woman that sends evil fire from her eyes every time a woman talks to him.
Women are not the enemy, men also have adjustments to do to their misconception that women are too complicated.
