On the following weeks I will try to introduce a new perspective on confidence advice starting with body confidence. Summer is arriving and with the bright sun we start to panic with our bodies. This type of dialogue starts to happen:
“Oh gosh, I wish I could be like that”
“How can I hide this?”
“Argh why am I like this? Whyyyy?”
*Eats 50 donuts*
“I ate a lettuce today so the donuts don´t count, so why is my body still like this?”
This is normally one of the features that trouble most minds. People avoid looking at the mirror and open a magazine asking why they can´t be like that. What I have noticed is that people take a lot of time hating their body instead of working on what they hate.
If you hate so much your body, if you avoid mirrors and have a wardrobe that hides every part of you then work on it. What do you have to work on? Do you eat the same as when you give a 7-year-old money to go buy food? Do you spend your days sitting down? Have you ever actually tried to change what you hate or gave up after a month? If you can´t accept yourself I know that the more I tell you that you are hotilicious you won´t believe it because compliments don´t kill insecurities. The point is: take care of your body.
Start by analysing your eating habits
Do you stress eat? When all your troubles attack you all at once does food calm you down? Are you addicted to the peace that food brings you? Would you compare it with an addiction? Do you need food as much as a smoker needs a cigarette? I have had this addiction, I was embarrassed in how I found comfort in eating. It terrified me how I was controlled by food however I hated what those donuts did to my body. This addiction always leads to body issues. I was able to pass it quickly and my advice is transferring this unhealthy addiction to a healthy one. It can go from dancing your problems away to watching movies. Whenever you watch a movie you forget about all your worries. When you dance you can release all your anger. Find your own unique way to stay calm. This has to be chosen by you because we all are moved by different things.
Do you believe you have good eating habits? If the honest answer to this question is no then start to eat healthier. Start by eliminating the junk food, add more water, more tea and finally fruit, vegetables basically the greens. You don´t need to eat like a bodybuilder you just need to eliminate the junk and add some healthy options.
Are you lazy?
How much do you move it? If you think about it, how many steps do you walk a day? It feels so good to sit down, to lay down, to put your feet up. It is so relaxing to be lazy but yet so unhealthy. You don´t need to become an athlete, you just need to move it. The good news is that if you are born lazy you don´t need to die lazy, there is a cure. Push yourself just a bit everyday, it can be something small like choosing to go by stairs instead of the elevator.
The plan for the lazy and forgetful memories
Print a calendar and each day, write what made you move then classify yourself in the lazy meter.
Lazy meter
Print your forbidden foods as a reminder then glue them on the kitchen wall, your room, mirrors or laptop.
Before you work on your body you must know what you want. Become stronger, healthier or sexy? What is sexy for you? To look like a magazine? Be realistic because if look at the photo and you take the Photoshop, the dedicated life to gym and eating like a bird, is this what you want? Why is that sexy? What do you actually want? Do you want to be the prototype of sensual in others eyes? Define for yourself what sexy means to you.
Make your goal to know what you want and then just do it. Make it a rule not to compare yourself or have the need to bring others down. Yes other people are beautiful. Admit that to yourself. The fact that others are beautiful does not cancel the fact that you also are. Just because red velvet ice cream is the best doesn’t mean I don’t want strawberry or think it isn´t as delicious.
Note to self: don´t love your body through the form of compliments. You must decide when you feel sexy and show it. Don’t actually think you have achieved your goal just because others tell you so. Don’t just wait for compliments to feel validated. When YOU decide you are a sexy then show it. How? Don’t insult yourself to yourself or to other people. When someone compliments you don’t act as if it isn’t true. Don’t shrug or walk with a crooked back that just shows insecurity followed by lack of confidence and finally don’t feel the need to ask people if you look ok.
