Dear men,
As girls we are brought up to live by our emotions, as boys you are told that emotions are a girly thing. This is where the clash happens. We like to talk about them, feel them, we let them drive us intensely however we are oblivious to yours. We want to talk about them in-depth but we forget that it is not essential for you. This doubt ends up hurting us. We think you are shut off and you think you have to constantly repeat yourself. It’s not that we both don’t feel the same but maybe it’s the saturated meaning of an ‘I love you’ or the need to talk about feelings that makes us insecure. So before you go calling us complicated please read and understand us a bit. This is what a woman wants.
First of all, can´t you see the beauty in complexity?
Is simplicity what you desire? Like a baby where there is only food, burp, sleep and it will love you forever? There is nothing attractive about a simple person, one with no scars. A person with no scars has never fallen, doesn’t have stories of the other side of life and hasn’t lived. What is the fun of someone that doesn’t understand pain? The more complex one is the more they will understand you, entertain you, hold you and love you. So don’t ask for something you don’t really want.
Are you thinking about me?
A woman wants to know you think about her. That sometimes you are lying on your bed thinking about her laugh. So when you do just tell her. That will kill another insecurity. We want to feel wanted, loved and appreciated.
Will you really stay?
Nowadays relationships are so easy to start but faster to end. Most guys don’t even want relationships instead they want a non labeled half relationship. We experience so many types of men that we become insecure. Men that want our bodies for satisfaction or our love for comfort, men that use and abuse of our hearts. We start to believe that everything will be temporary. Sometimes we just want to feel that you won´t leave.
Do you even love me?
Currently words don’t have the same meaning. I love you is so easy to say and is repeated so many times that it no longer has the same significance. The point is that instead of saying the words you prove it. “Do you need help?” “Do you want to talk about it?”, “I saw this at the store and had to buy it for you”, “I remember when you told me that”, “how was your day?”.
Can you just listen for a second?
I know we can talk for hours but sometimes we feel so unheard. People talk to us but don’t see us. Every day we are underestimated, unheard and all we want is that the person we love really sees us.
Do you still want me?
Touch is a charge of security and partnership. To feel a hand on our back makes us feel you will catch us if we fall. When you hug her, you both will breathe together for a bit. When you kiss her on the forehead it shows a certain respect. When you pick her up and kiss her as hard as you can she will feel completely utterly in love. This is the power of touch.
Are you lying to me? Do you even trust me?
Be honest about what you don’t like and be honest when you are insecure. It will mean so much that you both are talking about that, if you do explain her what bothers you then you both can change it. Tell her about your problems, open up to her even with the small things you don’t tell anyone. She wants to be there for you, to know that she is the one you can talk to. All she wants is to help you and when you open up to her she will feel like she is your safe spot.
Stop saying I cry for no reason
If she starts crying out of nowhere then please do not just stand there and look. Do something. We don’t cry without a reason. There is always something on our mind, from problems at home to worries in our daily lives and if it is not that then probably it is our period. Yes! That horrible hormone monster that feels like it is killing us for a week. We hide these thousands of thoughts everyday but we will burst. So if she cries, hug her and just listen to her. This is all you need to do.
If you like her so much then date her instead of me
Don´t compliment or look at other women. Danger zone.
Are we still too complicated?
The truth is to the naked eye we may seem irrational or difficult. We just don’t like to be insecure. Looking for a partner in crime knowing they will be there for the long run. Believe me, if you follow these points the majority of arguments and ‘complications’ will be gone. Just make your woman feel loved.
Men are not the enemy, women also have some adjustments to do to their misconception that men are all the same.
