These past years have all been about women empowerment. How feminism is not a want but a need. Common sense just shows that equal rights should already be a reality. Isn´t it frightening that it isn´t? That equality is still just a dream. However, something is being overlooked. While we are fighting to change how the world perceives women, why aren´t we changing how women perceive each other?
Why are women mean to each other?
At least once in a woman´s life, they have encountered a mean girl. A girl who makes her feel useless. Bullies her or at least uses in her spare time she gossips about her. This toxic behavior is unfortunately quite common. As women, we are raised to transport our insecurities to others. We are in a constant competition of who is better. The mean levels are raised when the answer to this question is, “we aren´t better”.
Women are less likely to become friends with certain types of women. When I talk about types I am defining stereotypes they construct with the first look or talk. Ironically they fit other women in stereotypes we are trying to escape. Going against the whole goal of feminism. What makes them have these attitudes? Anxiety, insecurity, and wrongful education. Threatened by other women, they run to the dark side. Believing that the antidote for insecurity is to make others feel worse. Anxiety is a great tool to this behavior. Overthinking or insecurity leads to believing we must fight. But why are we fighting? Shouldn’t we focus on equality and empowerment?
Empowerment is when women unite
To all the women who are mean and treat other women less, this is the truth. The truth is that change has not yet be implemented. Society treats us in many ways worse than we are worth. Women are paid less, have less probability to get promoted, can´t talk about everything especially bodily facts, have unwritten clothing laws and the list goes on and on. This treatment is not acceptable. However, how can we change this if we are mean to each other? We need to help each other. Forget out insecurities and remember we all have them. We need to thank, compliment and pull other women up.
