At least once in your lifetime you will experience a toxic relationship. These relationships can be with someone you are in love with, a friend or even family member. The problem is that we close our eyes to the signs and only open them to the pain. To be able to actually know if you are in a toxic relationship then you must answer these seven questions.
1. Are there unspoken rules?
These rules created from things you know you can’t say or do even though that person has never told them to you. By observing this person’s reactions to some situations especially when they are annoyed you created certain rules you must follow to avoid them. There is a whole law book written for your relationship telepathically. These rules can be things such as people you can’t talk to, subjects you can’t talk about and demands you must obey like staying home after work. Small demanding rules that your subconscious has implanted in your mind. These rules are made by your fear of seeing that person against you or losing them.
2. Are you being manipulated with kindness?
Instead of controlling you with fear this person manipulates you with kindness. Their goal is to find your weak point such as an insecurity then use it against you. They over compliment you to make you see that you have no reason to be insecure so that you never forget them as your strength. They not only become the person that believes most in you but someone you would do anything for. Although when you don´t obey their orders they will indirectly touch those points to make you weak.
3. Do they call you dramatic?
The fact that this person can’t distinguish emotions and gives them a negative connotation shows you that they are not there for you. A person that cares would actually worry about your feelings, calling them dramatic shows lack of interest and emotional intelligence.
4. Are you still the same?
This person will try to change you. Slowly gives you advice about things you should stop doing. Sometimes they can be more discrete however you can actually feel it if you want for example when they start buying you clothes they would prefer for you to wear. You shouldn’t change for anyone. Always remember that if a person does not accept who you are then that tells you more about them than about you.
5. Do they believe in you?
They tell you your goals are not achievable. Obviously making you insecure with your abilities. They will tell you that you take your dreams to high but have no power to reach that far.
6. Do you feel their pain?
When they are sad or angry they transport those feelings to you. Every time they feel sad they use you to make them feel better. By insulting you or treating you as less makes them feel better. This is a very twisted method although this medicine is used by a lot of people.
7. How many insults have you heard today?
They discretely insult you. When they say something that offends you and you confront them about it they will twist it so that you get the blame. If you hear an insult big or small don’t accept it and the person that had the need to say it to you.
