Do you know how to keep a relationship? Most people live in relationships with the heart but seem to forget that they need work. Work comes from both sides and both need to make changes. The harsh truth is that although love is the reason it is not the glue. The work and effort you put are what makes a strong beautiful relationship. There are many important factors to take into account.
1. One must be romantic
Don´t see romantic as in the place red rose petals in my bed and buy me a huge stuffed animal way but in the little things. Remember a special date, make a romantic dinner or drop a post it in their lunch saying you love them. Small things are the most romantic. To be romantic is to find a way (your way) to show how you feel.
2. You shouldn’t fear that your partner will leave you constantly
Don´t be in a relationship if you don’t trust the person. Even though you don’t say it that person will notice you think this. They will notice by the way you speak, act or react to certain things. Insecurity can end a relationship because trust is one of the strongest pillars of a relationship. Have a talk if you fear that you will lose that person and be calm. People don’t just randomly walk out of your life they always have a reason. Fight your fears.
3. Apologize from the heart
Don’t be the person that never says they are sorry or says it while rolling their eyes. Swallow your pride and just say a true sorry. You need to able to admit you were wrong, just apologize. It shows character.
4. You should connect in all ways
You should take interest in the things your partner likes, you should experience new things together and do the things you are scared of together. It is very important not only to show interest in your partner’s interests but also to be proud of your partner and show it! You have to be their biggest fan. Push them to do the things they love when they sometimes find excuses not to do it. You need to be the coach and cheerleader
5. Always be honest
This sounds obvious but you would be amazed by how this is ignored. What builds a relationship is the fact that both are honest with each other. Secrets just create big gaps in the relationship even if you don’t notice at first. It is scary to think that the person that sleeps by your side could have a whole secret life without telling me. Your only excuse is if you are a secret agent for one of those badass police secret agent things because if that is not the case you should always remember that your partner is a part of you.
6. Don’t over detective their life.
We all secretly want to be a private investigator that is basically a paid stalker but stop the urge. This just shows a lack of trust, that is something you should work on, instead of being so intense with small things.
7. Close your mouth
I will sound like your mother but always think before you speak! We have the tendency to say what comes up our mind without thinking how much it can hurt our partner. Don’t say something you will regret and always be worried about how your words will affect the person you are with.
8. Don’t judge
Don’t be mean or critical about their choices. Tell your opinion but don’t judge. It is so awful when your own partner makes you feel small. Don’t be judgy, just listen and be there.
9. Forget the arguments about the small stuff
Those are the most insignificant arguments. Those little small things roll like a ball of snow and become pretty big. Let go off them. Don´t let them slowly become big. You need to see how small they really are, don´t give them that much importance. They are really small things. The big rule is always telling your partner how you feel, have the argument but then forget it. Don´t hold on to things.
10. Remember the little things
Their favourite food and buy them. Just be thoughtful. Show that you listen to everything they tell you and show it to them. Small things like their favourite movie, favourite food or even play their video game. Also, it is very important to make plans, plan to run away together to somewhere new. See the world by their side.
Important rules:
- Never go to sleep angry!
- Don’t make a decision when angry
- Don’t look at your phone when together
- Kiss more (as if it were the first time).
